What do you think God is more with or turned off by? as a Christian, what are you more turned off by.?

Let's say you have a brother or sister (in Christ) in your church when going through a really hard time puts a smiley face on and acts like things alright when things aren't. On the other hand, let's say you have a brother in Christ at church that can't talk about what hardships he's going through with out using profanity. He says, "things are pretty f^%$ed right now". what do you think God is really more turned off by and why. what are you more turned off by?